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Questions to Ask Friends
Most friend questions are party filler. These 28 are about the friendship itself: who does the maintaining, who gets your honesty, and which friendships live in the grey area.
- Who knows you the best?
- which you have already, and which you need now the most? Zameel – someone you have a nodding acquaintance with. Jalees – someone you’re comfortable sitting with for a period of time. Sameer – you have good conversation with them. Nadeem – a drinking companion (just tea) that you might call when you’re free. Sahib – someone who’s concerned for your wellbeing. Rafeeq – someone you can depend upon. You’d probably go on holiday with them. Sadeeq – a true friend, someone who doesn’t befriend you for an ulterior motive. Khaleel – an intimate friend, someone whose presence makes you happy. Anees – someone with whom you’re really comfortable and familiar. Najiyy – a confidant, someone you trust deeply. Safiyy – your best friend, someone you’ve chosen over other friends. Qareen – someone who’s inseparable from you.
Twelve Arabic words for friend, from nodding acquaintance to inseparable. Sort your people.
- Who "can" give you tough love? Who "does"? Who do you "wish" did more?
Three answers, usually three different names.
- With which person or group of people have you had most of your laughs in your life?
- Do you have a friend with whom you share such a deep understanding of humor that it becomes hard to ever talk seriously to them?
- Who makes you better?
- Who among your friends do you feel most needed by?
- Do you have a friend that you are afraid to lose, as soon as the current activity, which brings you together, ends?
- How many people are you not sure you are really friends with? to rephrase, how many people do you have in the grey area of friendship?
- Who thinks they are your friend, but you are unsure if they are?
- who was the last friend you made? Are you building a friendship right now?
- Who was the last friend you lost?
- With which friend of yours you should probably break up but you hesitate?
The question everyone has thought and nobody has said.
- In your friendships which ones are solely maintained by your effort, which only by their effort, and which are a joint effort to keep it alive? How does each of those feel? Are you thinking about ending some? Are you afraid to be alone if you do? Have you talked about any of them?
- Where are you currently being a bad friend?
- If you consider yourself a work-in-progress, do you have close friends who do not think the same about themselves?
- What common fear among your friends, you do not have?
- Which of your friends sends the least number of signals?
- Where in your day to day life do you wish to see more women/men in?
- Who were you surprised to learn you can rely on?
- Who has made exclusive effort for you to be able to know them?
- Do you have enough friends now? if not when was the last time you did have enough?
- Who is your cheesiest friend whom you still enjoy hanging with?
- Who is the most generous person you know, and any hypothesis why they are so?
- Which of your friends is most suited to co-found a company with you?
- How many people you know would fulfil the following: ‚you would not be embarrassed to joint them uninvited for a drink if you met them at a bar‘ ?
- Who is the most fun to do projects with?
- What makes you feel close to someone?
Why these 28?
Every card here was picked by hand out of the full open-source Jous set. The rest of the pile is a random draw away — some cards there are dumb, some are deep. That is the point.
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