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Questions for Couples

Not the 'deepen your bond in 5 steps' kind. These 28 cards ask what couples actually wonder and rarely say. Some are tender, some have teeth.

  1. Who can break your heart?
  2. In how many of your relationships did you like your partner more than they liked themselves?

    The most quietly devastating relationship question in the deck.

  3. What would be the most probable cause of break up if you dated yourself?

    Works even better on a first date than in year five.

  4. What would be your first feeling if your partner broke up with you?
  5. If you could ask the opinion of your future self (3 years or 30 years) about your current relationship, would you?
  6. How many times do you think your partner was on verge of breaking up with you?
  7. In which of your relationships were you most forgiving of your partner‘s faults?

    Good for couples who think they have already talked about everything.

  8. Is your current relationship getting better with time? Is that a must for you in a relationship, or should it rather be stable
  9. Is your partner a better person than you?
  10. Do you think about your beloved every hour that you’re awake? Or almost every.
  11. In which way do you like to be like your partner?
  12. Who was the partner you were least frequently angry with?
  13. For which of your past and present partners have you had the most respect?
  14. Which side of you is your partner unaware of?
  15. Do you wonder if your partner would be better off without you?
  16. What can you tell your friend but not your partner?
  17. Do you feel a part of a change that is happening in micro increments?
  18. Have you said I-love-you while you didn’t mean it?
  19. Have you ever loved someone without having have told them?
  20. After you know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, how long do you think you will wait to tell them that?
  21. Who have you loved most selflessly?
  22. Whose marriage do you envy/admire?
  23. Do you allow yourself to hate (if for limited time) your partner or your close friends? do you allow then to hate you?
  24. Is love a skill to you?
  25. What is a notable origin story you have with a friend or partner?
  26. What’s the most meaningful non-verbal habit or ritual you share with someone you love?
  27. Have you received unconditional love?
  28. In what way could you possibly drive your (potential) partner crazy and ruin their life?

Why these 28?

Every card here was picked by hand out of the full open-source Jous set. The rest of the pile is a random draw away — some cards there are dumb, some are deep. That is the point.

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