Hand-picked from 1,700 open cards

Deep Questions, Hand-Picked

Out of 1,700 cards in the open Jous set, these 28 go the deepest without turning the evening into therapy. Draw them one at a time; do not rush.

  1. What's the closest thing to magic for you?

    The single best opener in the whole set. Nobody has a rehearsed answer.

  2. If you could ask one question from anyone in the world and they would answer as honest as they can, what would it be?
  3. What’s your most honest answer to the question: “What do you want?”
  4. What important truth do very few people agree with you on?
  5. Do you regret your words more or your silences?

    A question that quietly sorts a whole table into two camps.

  6. What’s a story you tell yourself that you know might not be true?

    Sit with the silence after this one.

  7. What part of your worldview are you most afraid to be wrong about?
  8. Do you have someone who would always tell you the truth?
  9. Who is one person who really saw you, while you did not expect them to?
  10. How often do you really see other the person, and let them in return really see you? (once a week, month, year, 10 years, life, never)
  11. Who can answer “how is it like to be you?” the best?
  12. What is the lie you tell yourself most often?
  13. How has your expectation of people to be without flaws changed, with age?
  14. What is a practice that brings meaning to your life, but it doesn’t include suffering first?
  15. When was the last time you *almost* gave up, but you were happy you did not?
  16. What was a context where someone else believed in you before yourself?
  17. What was the last time your definition of "good life" radically changed?
  18. When was the last era in your life where you could achieve unfiltered expression of joy or enthusiasm?
  19. What is an experience you have missed the most?
  20. Is there any guilt that you thought you would not be able to live with, but in fact you did?
  21. Which event divides your life best into two parts?
  22. Have you ever hidden a central thing in your life, but that to hide it you had to tell many more lies about other things and skip having many further conversations?
  23. What makes being you really hard?
  24. Where in your life do you feel necessary and where do feel completely unnecessary?
  25. What legacy do you hope to leave behind?
  26. What is something you think about every day but rarely say out loud?
  27. What do you wish was not true about you?
  28. What was a void you could recently not fill with material things?

Why these 28?

Every card here was picked by hand out of the full open-source Jous set. The rest of the pile is a random draw away — some cards there are dumb, some are deep. That is the point.

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